Have you been striving hard to make changes in your diet and to eat more healthy food? As you struggle along making good choices, do you sometimes make a bad choice? Have you ever had someone point out to you your faults and be quick to tell you what you are NOT doing right? Do you eat healthy, real food for the most part but sometimes slip and eat a piece of homemade pie that has been cooked with refined sugar and/or processed flour? Do you sometimes read the blogs of other "foodies" and something they say makes you feel like you just could never measure up, so why even try?
I think we can all relate to the questions above. The truth is, there are folks "out there" who make us feel intimidated or "belittled" by their apparant perfection. Some of these folks even like to "lord over us" and insist how evil we are because we are not as organic as they are, or because we sometimes don't eat "real" food, or because we just don't have our act together as they do.
I hope I don't ever come across that way in this blog, on my facebook page, or in person. I love to try to help others by sharing things that I have learned, but I hope that never comes across as being proud, arrogant, or pretending that I have all the answers. I think specifically about my choice to not eat factory farmed meat. I do share that with you all here because it is important to me. However, for the record, I want my readers to know that I consider this a personal choice and I do not expect everyone else to be as burdened about this issue as I am. I also do not condemn or judge those folks who do not follow the same guidelines in choosing the meat that they eat. However, I do post from time to time on this subject because I know that there are folks who just are not aware of where their meat comes from and rather than make uninformed choices, I would like to see folks make informed choices.
I have been trying to formulate a blog on this subject for some time now and just was not able to completely get it together. To my rescue, The Nourished Life: Real Tradition Food and Natural Living wrote a post that says more eloquently what I have wanted to say.
I quote from their post:
I’ve been noticing some disturbing comments in the online world of real food. They don’t occur often, but I’ve seen a few of them recently, and I have to say it doesn’t sit right with me. Here’s an example of one comment I ran across:
"In my opinion, you have to be all or nothing about natural health."
This kind of comment will generally make someone feel immediately defensive or utterly discouraged. In my opinion, this way of thinking really gets in the way of making progress in the world of real food and natural living. The moment we start pushing people with this kind of dogma is the moment we alienate ourselves from anyone who would have considered listening to us.
Once you get into the all-or-nothing mentality, you lose perspective and start trying to achieve perfection. This kind of thinking will trap you in one of two ways: either you’ll become an ego-maniac who fiercely denies the possibility of having flaws or being wrong, or you’ll become incredibly discouraged and just give up altogether. Frankly, neither of these outcomes is a good thing. So the only solution is to throw the all-or-nothing mentality right out the window!
Being healthy is not all or nothing. Life is not all or nothing. Nobody’s that perfect. Nobody can actually do it all. And that’s perfectly fine. We don’t need to do it all, we just need to do all we can - whatever that means at any given moment.
This blog is about bridging the gap between real food and real people. And real people mess up. A lot. Some days we’ll feel like super heroes that can conquer any obstacle that besets us. Other days we might feel like wallowing in a well of self-pity (and a carton of ice cream if we’re really feeling down). The point is you are going to mess up sometimes. You’re going to eat that brownie when you’re trying to go sugar free. You’re going to miss that morning jog. You’re going to go to bed late and miss out on some much-needed sleep. It’s going to happen.
My point is not that we should be cynical pessimists or give up on trying, but that we should embrace the fact that nobody - not us or anyone else - is perfect. This adage pretty much sums it up:
"It’s not how often you fall down, but how quickly you get back up."
So don’t sit around beating yourself up about every time you fall down - just hop back up and try again. That’s how all successful people do it. Successful people aren't extraordinarily flawless--they get where they want to go because they just keep trying no matter how many times they get it wrong.
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